Boundary Work for Trauma BB's
Oct
27
6:30 PM18:30

Boundary Work for Trauma BB's

Boundaries are one of the most fundamental ways that we assert our needs and build supportive relationships with others. But learning how to affirm your boundaries can be super challenging when you live with trauma. In order to survive, we learnt that the best way to protect ourselves and avoid abandonment was to have really rigid or really soft boundaries. In this workshop, we’ll thank our trauma brains for the work they’ve done to keep us safe, and we’ll start to assess the ways in which supportive boundaries can help us move forward in our healing work.

Participants will each get a workbook that we'll use together and over the course of three hours we'll:

  • Develop a better understanding of the values that shape our boundaries.

  • Learn more about the different kinds of boundaries we have and assess which are soft, rigid, or supportive.

  • Discuss how to articulate our boundaries.

  • Move through some strategies for determining what to do when a boundary is crossed.

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Collaging the Tarot
Sep
21
11:00 AM11:00

Collaging the Tarot

BI ARTS FESTIVAL - WORKSHOP
COLLAGING THE TAROT: A SELF-CARE WORKSHOP
with MARGEAUX FELDMAN
SATURDAY SEPTEMBER 21, 11AM TO 12:30PM
the 519, 519 CHURCH STREET
$10

After a brief introduction into tarot, participants will select cards from the various tarot decks provided to inspire their collage. There will be a variety of materials on hand to help you learn more about the cards you've selected, which you are welcome to consult before starting your collage, if you wish.

Collage materials will be provided, but participants are always encouraged to bring in anything of their own to add (a quotation from a favourite book, a photocopy of a photograph, etc.) Each participant will walk away with a collage inspired by tarot.

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Doing Grief-Work Together (SOLD OUT)
Aug
27
6:00 PM18:00

Doing Grief-Work Together (SOLD OUT)

Learn about grief-work rooted in community and self-care, and explore individual and communal grieving strategies – with educator and community-builder Margeaux Feldman.

Despite the fact that death – and, by extension, grief – will happen to us all, we really don’t know what to do when faced with another person’s grief. While public grieving used to be a common practice, now grief is considered a private emotion, best confined to one’s home. How can we return to an understanding of grief that is rooted in the community? What might a practice of communal grief look like? How can it serve to support the individual grieving?

Participants in this workshop will begin to unpack some of the beliefs they hold about grief, explore strategies for grief work rooted in self-care and community-care, and leave with a better understanding of their own capacity to do grief work with others.

Margeaux Feldman is an educator, writer, and community builder living in Toronto. She is currently completing her PhD at the University of Toronto, and holds certificates in Community-Engaged Learning and Conflict Resolution. With almost a decade's worth of experience teaching inside and outside of academia, at the heart of Margeaux's work is a commitment to collaboration, compassion, and care. A queer and disabled femme, it is her (unpopular) opinion that failure is necessary for learning and growth. You can learn more about her at margeauxfeldman.com.

When: Tuesday, August 27, 2019
Time: 6pm-9pm
Where: The 519 [519 Church St], room 201

Refreshments will be provided. ASL interpretation and child care available upon request. Please contact Jo at JJefferson@The519.org in advance if you wish to make use of these services.

The 519 is an accessible facility with a ramp, elevator, and all-gender washrooms.

bOlder Together is a series of free intergenerational skill-building workshops and community events. Project funded by the Pride & Remembrance Run.

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Communicating Across Conflict
Jul
14
2:00 PM14:00

Communicating Across Conflict

Conflict is totally normal and it can be productive and necessary for growth! But conflict can also be destructive, especially when it escalates. This workshop offers a trauma-informed, anti-oppressive approach to preventing, de-escalating, and resolving conflicts. This workshop builds on the skills gained from "Conflict 101." Participants will learn how communication breakdowns lead to and escalate conflict. We'll spend much of the workshop building a communication toolkit, which includes active listening, non-violent communication, and the role that curiosity can play in resolving conflicts. 

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Conflict 101
Jun
30
2:00 PM14:00

Conflict 101

Conflict is totally normal and it can be productive and necessary for growth! But conflict can also be destructive, especially when it escalates. This workshop offers a trauma-informed, anti-oppressive approach to preventing, de-escalating, and resolving conflicts. Participants will learn to identify different conflict styles, including the strengths and challenges of working with those conflict styles, and strategies for addressing conflict with those whose style is different than their own. We'll discuss how to work proactively to ensure that conflict does not escalate, as well as some tools for de-escalation.

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Collaging the Tarot: A Self-Care Workshop
May
26
1:00 PM13:00

Collaging the Tarot: A Self-Care Workshop

After the symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder appeared in 2016, I found it impossible to write. My life felt fragmented and so how could I possibly translate this experience into the coherency necessary for the written word? During this time I turned to two seemingly different self-care strategies: collage and tarot. In collage, I found an artistic practice that allowed me to take the fragments of different materials -- magazine images, washi tape, printed paper, paints and markers -- and turn them into something whole. In tarot, I was able to seek guidance for my seemingly disparate thoughts. I was asked to tune into my intuition and get grounded, even if just for a moment. And I found new avenues for creating stories. Both of these practices emphasize the power of intuition, the beauty of differing representations, and new practices for making sense of our oftentimes incoherent worlds.

Over the span of two hours, I'll provide participants with a brief introduction into tarot and some different spreads you can use for reading the cards. Participants will select cards from the various tarot decks provided to inspire their collage. There will be a variety of materials on hand to help you learn more about the cards you've selected, which you may or may not wish to consult before starting your collage. Collage materials will be provided, but participants are always encouraged to bring in anything of their own to add (a quotation from a favourite book, a photocopy of a photograph, etc.) Each participant will walk away with a collage inspired by tarot.

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Communicating Across Conflict
Mar
17
3:00 PM15:00

Communicating Across Conflict

Conflict is totally normal and it can be productive and necessary for growth! But conflict can also be destructive, especially when it escalates. This workshop offers a trauma-informed, anti-oppressive approach to preventing, de-escalating, and resolving conflicts. This workshop builds on the skills gained from "Conflict 101." Participants will learn how communication breakdowns lead to and escalate conflict. We'll spend much of the workshop building a communication toolkit, which includes active listening, non-violent communication, and the role that curiosity can play in resolving conflicts.

+++ Margeaux is also teaching a workshop called 'Conflict 101' March 3rd from 3-6. If you'd like to sign up for both, we are offering a deal -- please choose the Combo package for sign up for both.

+++ We always offer a few sliding scale price options for folks to make workshops more accessible. Please honestly choose what you can afford.

Our space has an accessibility ramp but our washroom is downstairs. We are not a scent-free space.

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QUEER & TRANS INCLUSIVITY FOR ENTREPRENEURS
Feb
28
6:00 PM18:00

QUEER & TRANS INCLUSIVITY FOR ENTREPRENEURS

No one ever starts out perfect or unproblematic, and no one ever reaches the finish line on becoming a more inclusive, intersectional ally. Checking your privilege, being open to experiences and perspectives other than your own, and learning about different identities is a continual process. Margeaux Feldman and Tanya Neumeyer will help you navigate the various stages of this learning process. 

This workshop give participants the language and tools they need to promote inclusivity for folks who identify as queer, trans, and non-binary. Our goal in this series is to alert participants to questions, concepts, behaviours, and identities that they don’t even know they don’t know. 

Over the course of 3 hours, Margeaux and Tanya will provide you with a breakdown of important concepts and terminology, and will guide folks through a series of explorative questions and group exercises that will illuminate where your allyship can be improved.

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Jan
14
7:00 PM19:00

Reading @ The EW Reading Series Presents Jolly January!

The EW Reading Series is dedicated to the professionally serious writer who has not yet published a book. Our readers have gone on to win awards, place their work, publish books, and gain further recognition as the up-and-coming writers of Canada. EW is committed to establishing a space that is safe and welcome to writers and audience members from underrepresented communities and we encourage you to write to us if you wish to join as a reader. We are happy to answer any questions about how we are creating this space and welcome feedback on how to be more inclusive.

ACCESS NOTE: Glad Day is wheelchair accessible, with automatic push button doors and a wheelchair accessible bathroom on the main level of the building.

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Queer & Trans-Inclusivity for Entrepreneurs Part 3: Fly Solo
Nov
26
6:00 PM18:00

Queer & Trans-Inclusivity for Entrepreneurs Part 3: Fly Solo

No one ever starts out perfect or unproblematic, and no one ever reaches the finish line on becoming a more inclusive, intersectional ally. Checking your privilege, being open to experiences and perspectives other than your own, and learning about different identities is a continual process. These workshops help you along as you navigate the various stages of this process and your own personal journey.  

These workshops give participants the language and tools they need to promote inclusivity for folks who identify as queer, trans, and non-binary. Our goal in this series is to alert participants to questions, concepts, behaviours, and identities that they don’t even know they don’t know.

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In the final part of our Queer and Trans-Inclusivity for Entrepreneurs series, we bring together the skills and knowledge from the first two workshops and develop a deeper understanding of inclusivity that is intersectional. We enhance our understanding of  anti-oppression by considering the intersections of sexuality, gender, race, class, ability, and colonialism.  We then spend a larger part of the workshop discussing examples of non-inclusive website copy, marketing materials, and business policies and devise best-practice solutions. Participants will leave this workshop with the confidence they need to sustain an inclusive business. 

While it is not necessary to have taken Part 1 of this series in order to participate, we do not recommend taking Part 3 unless you've participated in Part 2 of the series. 

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Queer & Trans-Inclusivity for Entrepreneurs Part 2: Deep Dive
Oct
24
6:00 PM18:00

Queer & Trans-Inclusivity for Entrepreneurs Part 2: Deep Dive

No one ever starts out perfect or unproblematic, and no one ever reaches the finish line on becoming a more inclusive, intersectional ally. Checking your privilege, being open to experiences and perspectives other than your own, and learning about different identities is a continual process. These workshops help you along as you navigate the various stages of this process and your own personal journey.  

These workshops give participants the language and tools they need to promote inclusivity for folks who identify as queer, trans, and non-binary. Our goal in this series is to alert participants to questions, concepts, behaviours, and identities that they don’t even know they don’t know.

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Part 2 of the Queer & Trans-Inclusivity for Entrepreneurs series builds on the foundation set in Part 1. In this workshop, participants work together to troubleshoot their way through specific roadblocks they are experiencing. Over the course of 3 hours, we workshop copy and/or images from their website, discuss social media strategies like hashtags, and collaboratively problem-solve so that participants walk away with solutions that they can apply immediately to their own business. 

This workshop is perfect for those who have taken Part 1 or who already feel comfortable with the vocabulary of LGBTQ-inclusivity.

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The Vault: A Launch Party
Oct
3
6:00 PM18:00

The Vault: A Launch Party

We're so pumped about the newest project from With/out Pretend and we're throwing a party!

The Vault is a digital (and soon to be print) magazine home to intimate stories and art by women. Our subscribers are champions of the kind of art they want to see in the world — art that is honest, relatable, and fiercely uncensored. Find out more: vaultzine.com

Doors at 6pm.
DEEP CONTENT starts @ 7:30 sharp, feat:

Aley Waterman, Hana Shafi, Margeaux Feldman, Faith Arkorful

w special guest Ameema Saeed 

Thanks to our beer sponsor LOST CRAFT BEER we will provide refreshments, including beer or wine and some light snacks.

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*Banner art by Lauren Tamaki, for "Islands"

**Please note that our events typically sell out ahead of time, so we encourage you to buy tickets online. If ticket cost is a barrier for you, reach out to us at community@hellowithoutpretend.com — we do set aside a few community tickets for every event we host.

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Queer & Trans-Inclusivity for Entrepreneurs Part 1: Get Started
Sep
26
6:00 PM18:00

Queer & Trans-Inclusivity for Entrepreneurs Part 1: Get Started

No one ever starts out perfect or unproblematic, and no one ever reaches the finish line on becoming a more inclusive, intersectional ally. Checking your privilege, being open to experiences and perspectives other than your own, and learning about different identities is a continual process. These workshops help you along as you navigate the various stages of this process and your own personal journey.  

These workshops give participants the language and tools they need to promote inclusivity for folks who identify as queer, trans, and non-binary. Our goal in this series is to alert participants to questions, concepts, behaviours, and identities that they don’t even know they don’t know. 

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Part 1 of the Queer & Trans-Inclusivity for Entrepreneurs series provides entrepreneurs with the language and tools they need to promote inclusivity for folks who identify as queer, trans, and non-binary. We explore the language of gender, sex, and sexuality and their relationship to concepts such as intersectionality, privilege, and oppression. This workshop prompts participants to ask “what am I not even noticing?” and to think about the ways in which they can promote allyship. We consider what it means to work from an anti-oppressive framework in order to create a more equitable business.

Over the course of 3 hours, the workshop leaders provide participants with a breakdown of important concepts and terminology, and guide participants through a series of explorative questions and group exercises that will help illuminate areas where their allyship could be improved.

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Conflict Resolution for Communities
Aug
19
6:00 PM18:00

Conflict Resolution for Communities

I'm bringing my Conflict Resolution for Communities workshop to one of my favourite community spaces: Likely General on Roncesvalles. 

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What we'll do: 

  • Circle check in and word play exercise
  • Conflict management styles 
  • Tools for managing conflict with an emphasis on trauma-informed approaches
  • Strategies for community accountability
  • Closing circle and goals for future 

What you'll get: 

  • An understanding of your go-to conflict management style
  • Tools for non-violent communication
  • An introduction into community accountability strategies
  • Knowledge of what role you can play in community accountability and transformative justice practices 
  • A safe space to ask questions and talk about conflict  

This workshop is 3 hours and operates on a trusted sliding scale, please choose what you are able to afford. To get tickets or to find out more, please visit Likely General

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