The details

When: fridays from 2pm-3:30pm pacific

Starting: friday, february 6th, 2026

Dates: feb 6, 13, 20, 27, mar 6, 13, 20, 27

  • In Intimacy for Trauma BBs we will meet once a week across eight weeks to learn more about the ways in which trauma impacts how we show up in our intimate relationships (which can include, but is not limited to: friends, family, romantic partners, and sexual connections). We won’t just focus on the challenges, but we’ll celebrate the different ways in which trauma helps us see that the forms of intimacy we’ve inherited need to change. 

    Each week you’ll receive a pre-recorded lecture to watch before we meet, as well as an accompanying workbook. there’ll also be recommended readings (don’t worry, I’ll share key takeaways in the lecture). then we’ll meet together as a large group every friday between 2-3:30pm pacific. during this time, you’ll have an opportunity to ask questions about the readings, lecture content, or the general topics and themes for that week.

    One of the main goals of this offering is to foster community with other trauma BBs. to support that aim, you’ll also have a chance to gather in smaller breakout groups, so that we may honor and center the wisdom of folks in the room. For small group discussions, folks will be given the option to join an affinity group (BIPOC, queer, trans/nonbinary, survivors, disabled/neurodivergent).

    • You’ve been thinking about how trauma shows up in your relationships, but want to do a deeper dive into this landscape.

    • You’re interested in building community with other trauma bbs and are excited by a peer support model.

    • You’re committed to showing up each week, recognizing that peer support groups are made magical by your presence.

    what this group isn't:

    A therapeutic container for processing trauma. Of course your lived experience will come up during our sessions together. My hope is that you’ll focus on your current struggles and successes, and that this group can be a place where you can feel the support of other humans who’re on a similar journey.

  • Week 1: Trauma 101 and the Neuroscience of Connection

    • Readings: Nurturing Resilience by Kathy Kain and Stephen Terrell, Chapter 1: The Cornerstones of Relational Development; and Chapter 4: The Neural Platforms for Regulation and Connectedness (total pages 26)

    Week 2: Intro to the Nested Model of Attachment

    • Readings: Polysecure by Jessica Fern, Chapter 1: An Overview of Attachment Theory; and Chapter 3: The Nested Model of Attachment and Trauma (total pages 68)

    Week 3: Diving Into Our Attachment Styles

    • Readings: none; reflection exercise to be completed before meeting

    Week 4: Determining Our Relational Boundaries

    • Readings: Unf*ck Your Boundaries by Faith G. Harper, Chapter 1: What are Boundaries? (total pages 17) 

    Week 5: Building Secure Attachment With Others

    • Readings: Polysecure by Jessica Fern, Chapter 7: The Foundations of Being Polysecure in Your Relationships; and Chapter 8: The HEARTS of Being Polysecure in Your Relationships (total pages 35)

    Week 6: Building Secure Attachment With Self

    • Readings: Polysecure by Jessica Fern, Chapter 9: The S in HEARTS–Secure Attachment With Self (total pages 31)

    Week 7: Reparenting Our Inner Little Ones

    • Readings: “soft magic,” from Touch me, i’m sick: a memoir in essays by margeaux feldman (total pages (27 pages)

    Week 8: envisioning the future & Wrapping Up

    • readings: none; reflection exercise to be completed before meeting

  • payments are in USD. if you are located elsewhere and cannot afford the lowest tier due to the exchange rate, please let me know in your application what you could afford to pay. there are also 10 spots available for a 1:1 coaching session after the course wraps. these are first come, first served, for an additional cost of $250.

    • BIPOC Full Scholarship: These spots are reserved for Black, Indigenous, and people of color who couldn’t attend this offering otherwise. FULL. Waitlist open.

    • BIPOC Partial Scholarship $250: These spots are for folks who could afford to attend without a full scholarship.

    • $320: For those who’re low income, no savings, and couldn't otherwise afford to attend without this option.

    • $480: For those who’re mid-income, with some money in savings and/or financial support from family.

    • $640: For those who’re high-income, with a savings account and financial safety net; can afford to take vacations and make other large purchases with ease.

    • $820: For those who're high income/stably employed and/or have had access to intergenerational wealth, and who want to help support me in making low cost spots and scholarships available.

    Sign up before the end of 2025 and get an early bird discount of 15% off.

Applications close january 26th

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